HOW TO MAKE DECISIONS....

                                      “Life is the sum of all your choices.” – Albert Camus

We make decisions every day; everything we say and do is the result of a decision, whether we make it consciously or not. For every choice, big or small, there's no easy formula for making the right decision. The best you can do is to approach it from as many perspectives as possible and then choose a course of action that seems reasonable and balanced at that time.

Before you begin try some deep breathing:
                               It helps clear your mind so that you are calmly figuring out the solution, instead of  worrying about outcomes.
List your options:

                              we should not think that there is only one solution to a problem,there are many. Even if your situation seems limited, try to make a list of alternatives.write down all the ideas that strike your brain to find a solution.even if the idea is crazy,dont bother about that.sometimes a crazy idea can bring out excellent solution to a problem which you never expect. Sometimes strangers can offer the most creative ideas because they do not share your assumptions or biases.

Weigh the possible outcomes:

                            * for every option,list the possible outcomes whether it is positive or not.For every scenario, think about whether the best possible outcome is worth accepting the risk of the worst possible outcome. If the worst possible outcome is completely unacceptable to you, meaning that you could never forgive yourself if it happens, then you probably shouldn't make that decision.

                             * Consider which option will encounter the most resistance and why. Significant difficulty in implementing a decision can sometimes outweigh the benefits of the outcome, depending on the situation. Other times, it's the most resisted decision that would make the biggest difference.

Make a choice. 

                              This is, of course, the hardest step, but there will hopefully be a decision on your list that is backed up by both logic and intuition. It should have more plus signs than negative signs, and it should have your intuition's approval. If things don't match up clearly, though,ask for advice from people you trust. This can be a good tie-breaker.

                               *No matter which decision you make, be prepared to accept responsibility for every outcome. If things don't work out, it's always better to have made a conscious decision than to have been careless. At least you can say that you did the best you could.

                               *If you can, make a backup plan in preparation for any negative outcome. think ahead. The best decision makers aren't people who never make mistakes; they're people who hope for the best and prepare for the worst.

Implement your decision wholeheartedly and joyfully

                               Once you have made a decision, implement it totally. At this stage, don't be confused by thinking about the other potential alternatives that you did not pick.

Evaluate your decision. 

                                This is the most important step. If you don't evaluate your decision afterward, you won't learn anything from it. Ask yourself whether the outcome was what you expected. Would you do it again? What do you know now that you didn't know before? How would you turn this lesson learned into advice? By drawing insight and wisdom from every decision you make, you can ensure that every choice has at least one positive outcome.